What Does It Mean to Be Demiromantic?

If someone you know identifies as demiromantic, you may be wondering what they mean. Or you may be considering whether or not you might be demiromantic. Let's take a closer look at this concept, what it means for someone in relationships, along with some myths and misconceptions.

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Demiromantic and the Aromantic Spectrum

Someone who is demiromantic is someone who will only develop romantic feelings towards others if they feel a strong, close emotional connection with them. This designation has nothing to do with someone's gender identity or sexual orientation, but rather the situation in which they fall in love with other people.

Someone who is demiromantic is considered to be on the aromantic spectrum. The aromantic spectrum is defined as including people who do not feel romantic attraction towards others. Demiromantic individuals, however, may experience romantic feelings, but only after a long time spent developing a deep emotional connection with someone.

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Common Myths About Demiromanticism

There are a number of myths and misconceptions about people who identify as demiromantic. Let's debunk the most common myths about this concept.

Myth: People who identify as demiromantic don't like sex or physical affection

This is a myth. Someone who is demiromantic can enjoy physical affection, including hugs, cuddles, and sex. It depends on the person and whether or not they personally enjoy these things. The "demiromantic" designation is related only to romantic attraction, not physical attraction or desire for physical intimacy.

Myth: Demiromantic individuals always have crushes on close friends

A person who identifies as demiromantic can be close friends with someone and not be romantically attracted to them. This concept does not mean that the person will always be attracted to someone they are close to; just that they only fall in love with someone they are close with on a personal level. They can still have intimate friends and not develop romantic relationships with them.

Demiromantic vs. Demisexual

People often confuse this concept with demisexuality. Demisexuality refers to people who only experience sexual attraction towards partners they are close with; whereas being demiromantic refers to people who only experience romantic attraction towards people they are close with. Someone who is demiromantic can experience sexual attraction towards others, even if they are not close with them.

Relationships and Demiromanticism

What does it mean if someone who identifies as demiromantic is in a romantic relationship? Here are a few things to keep in mind.

The first is that many individuals who identify as demiromantic will avoid attempting to get into romantic relationships with people if they aren't close. For instance, they won't be interested in blind dates or dating relative strangers from dating apps; instead, they'll look for potential partners from people within their close circle.

Another element to consider is that a person who identifies as demiromantic may enjoy activities and interactions that are considered "romantic" only with people they consider close. For instance, they may not be interested in cuddling and watching a film with someone they don't consider close.

Like other types of aromanticism, this concept encompasses a wide range of people and behaviors. There is no "one size fits all," and you may find that you or loved ones who identify as demiromantic will feel differently about certain elements of romantic relationships and intimate activities.

Recognizing Demiromantic Signs

Signs of being demiromantic may include finding sexual attraction easy but being confused about romantic relationships, preferring "friends with benefits" relationships, and falling in love only after developing a significant emotional bond over a long period of time.

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The Importance of Communication and Understanding

It is important to recognize that romantic attraction is complex and multifaceted, and that everyone's experiences and preferences are valid and worthy of respect. Communication is crucial in mixed-attraction relationships involving individuals who identify as demiromantic, as their partners may struggle to understand their lack of primary romantic attraction and the importance of emotional bonding.

Demisexual and demiromantic identities are not widely known or recognized, which can make it difficult for individuals to understand and accept their own experiences. Some people who identify as demiromantic may face skepticism or invalidation from others who view their experiences as abnormal or unnecessary. However, many people find that this concept accurately describes their experiences and provides a sense of community and validation.